There are 3 Essential Elements to being Coachable!
1.There needs to be a focus. You can’t coach someone who doesn’t have a target.
If someone doesn’t know what they want to talk about, where they want to go or what they want to resolve then they are just sharing info, but there isn’t really forward movement. (Want to help someone with focus – read Part 1.)
2.There needs to be a plan. You can’t coach someone who doesn’t want to make a plan.
Ideas are great and dreams are beautiful, but if there are not action steps attached then potential reality or forward movement is not very likely. (For more on action steps check out Part 2.)
3. There needs to be implementation. You can’t coach someone who doesn’t do something.
Once we have set the course in our GPS, have a vehicle and directions to follow we still need to actually DO IT!
Implementation takes courage. We may try some things and need a course correction or different mode of transportation. We may need fellow journeyers to travel with or at least to ask us about our travelers.
Life is an ongoing adventure, unless you get stuck.
Actual execution of a plan isn’t usually a straight shot, direct routes are usually quicker, but not often the biblical norm. For some reason walking with God seems more like a sailboat ride tacking back and forth rather than a speed boat going from one place full speed to another.
Just in case you aren’t familiar – tacking is when a sailboat zig zags back and forth to get to the where they are going. It can seem counter intuitive, but the pathway still works.
I often feel like that. I am heading one way doing what I feel like God is guiding me to do and then He makes some kind of a shift and I head in a different direction, not completely different, but certainly a different direction. It’s easy to question the initial decision I thought was God’s plan and feel like I was going the “wrong” way, but then when I “get there” I realize He was guiding me along my way much more than I realized. Make sense?
Let’s try a real life story. When I first designed my coach training material I made it 16 weeks long to fit with a college semester. It was great for me to format it that way at the start. Then I realized that was a long commitment and tricky to finish before Christmas when we started in the fall. Now the training is 12 weeks long for certification and that works so much better. I could feel like I messed up when it was longer, but I was just learning and it was a great win that I wrote the material and finished it. There were many other ways I went before I arrived at using the tools I use to make the course happen – a shared google doc works best to keep track of the completed coursework, Teachable is the tool for hosting the video part of the course now, Facebook groups are where we share our online discussion.
Each of those options have stories about multiple things I tried in order to get where I am now.
To be honest I struggle sometimes with why I had to try things to get somewhere. I ask myself these questions:
- Did God not know what would work best?
- If He did know why didn’t He lead me there first off?
- What if He was leading me and I didn’t hear properly?
I usually hang out there for awhile (less and less as I grow) and then I move to better questions.
- What if God isn’t so interested in doing things quicker or easier?
- What if this life is more about journeying with Him than doing things “right”?
- How is He pleased with me right where I am at?
- What is is revealing to me about Himself? about myself?
What if God is there for us more than we realize but we don’t recognize Him because we expect Him only to show up certain ways?
The Lord says, “My thoughts are not like your thoughts. Your ways are not like myways. Isaiah 55:8
The key to being coachable is to keep moving forward!
Where do you need to take a step today?
Where can you help someone else in their journey?