Ever play freeze tag as a kid? Remember, that’s where when you get tagged you have to remain stuck in your position until someone frees you.
It’s kind of like hitting the pause button on your DVD remote. The whole screen and all the action freeze and are kept in that one single moment until you hit the play button.
Freeze framing people in our minds is kind of like that. Someone does something not so great and they get stuck in our mind in that moment. We label them as “that” person and it is hard for them ever to move forward in our minds. They have been freeze framed.
People get freeze framed as shallow, unreliable, schemers, moody, loud, anxious, inflexible and the like. When we freeze frame someone we are not practicing an active belief that they could change and grow. I am so grateful I am not the person I was. I have done some things I am not proud of, I have believed things that were not true, but thanks be to God – He is moving us forward, we are capable of being transformed. Freeze framing holds people where you see them only for who they are right now or what they have done in the past. Freeing people from a frozen place allows us to breathe life into who they could become!
I recently met with a group of small group leaders and asked them to list the people in their care, followed by how they might be freeze framing them in parenthesis and then what they could see the person becoming if they were released to grow. It looked something like this:
Jesse (forgetful, unfocused) could grow to flexible missionary
Adam (loud) could grow to bold leader
Missy (insecure) could become strong in recognizing lies and helping others to do the same
You get the picture. What about you?
- Who might you be freeze framing?
- What could the bigger picture be?
- What could someone freeze frame you as?
- What could freeze framing keep you from becoming?
- Name three people you would like to speak life into.
I pray you will be released to forward motion and not be stuck in a frozen moment AND that you will release others as you have been released!