Hebrews 5 talks about teaching with a food word picture.
You still need the teaching that is like milk. You are not ready for solid food. 13 Anyone who lives on milk is still a baby and knows nothing about right teaching. 14 But solid food is for those who are grown up.
Think about it. When we as leaders put ourselves in a different category than the people we work with we treat them differently. If we see them as people who are needy, and some of them really are, but a lot of them could grow into steak eaters if we stopped giving them milk.
Here’s how it goes:
- focus on why stuff is happening to them.
- want people to decide for them what they should do next.
- wonder why they feel abandoned by God and others.
- feel they must talk to some one who has more access to God when then are working through something.
- are unsure of themselves, their strengths and their destiny.
- focus on what God is doing in them.
- own their own life and their next goals.
- know that God always offers a plan.
- press in to find where God is in whatever situation they are facing.
- know who they are designed to be, and understand their place in the family of God.
As a leader we can walk with others in a way that honors them into a partnering future OR a way the enables them to remain stuck in an immature stage.
Honoring looks like asking powerful questions that allow the person to move forward as they believe God is guiding them. Honoring is walking with a person at the pace they are walking. It can include challenge but is more often curious. Honoring is transformational and rooted in a trust of God’s plan for people’s lives.
Enabling look like telling the other person what we think they should do. Enabling hurries on the process. It leans on the knowledge and experiences of the leader and passes those on to the other rather than allowing that person to grow in their own experiences. Enabling is transactional and focused on outcomes rather than process.
Leaders have their own relationships with God.
When we get in between a person and their own relationship with God we can actually slow down the maturing process, and hamper forward movement in their spiritual journey.
Needers want us to carry their load for them.
Leaders want to grow stronger and carry their own load.
It’s not fun growing up sometimes. And I am not a big fan of watching people struggle with something I could easily do for them.
BUT, the results are worth the wait! I love seeing people get “Aha” moments when they realize how God has been working in their life. I love when they decide to try something (whether it works on not, their decision is a WIN!) I love walking with people toward their goals, knowing that I am imitating God who walks with me.
Tellers enable needers.
Leaders honor leaders.
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