Home owners in this popular show are in a crisis. They have a list of things they want out of their living situation that they don’t currently enjoy. Hillary wants to remodel their current home to make their dreams come true right where they are while David wants them to opt for a new location that would better suit their needs. At the end of the show the home owners are posed with a question to love their current home with it’s new features and remain living there or opt for the new one in hopes that it will better suit their needs.
Sometimes I think our lives are like that . We have a list of things we want to see in lives and we aren’t sure if we want to remain where we are and just improve a few things or if some place else would really better suit our needs.
How can you decide? How should you decide?
I have some decisions on my plate right now. As I consider them and what to do I’ve been thinking a lot about motivation. And I think the answer lies in a deeper look at what’s behind the decision.
Here’s 5 negative decision drivers I’ve noticed:
Fear keeps us from moving forward. It magnifies the unknown and paralyzes us with unhealthy “What if’s?”
Doubt speaks to our insecurities and often masquerades itself as wisdom.
Impatience double thinks. It has a low tolerance for things not made in a microwave.
Anger clouds our vision and usually puts a red lens on whatever we see. It’s impulsive and self centered.
Miscommunication steals the truth and then hides it, builds false walls and holds us back from our destiny.
On the other hand – here’s 5 healthy motivations I’ve seen.
God often speaks in a still small voice and if we calm our spirit and center ourselves on Him, we find Him there waiting with an answer.
Faith rises up within us and sees things we cannot see in the natural.
Hope connects with kingdom values and moves us toward true wisdom.
Action Steps help us vet out our options. Sometimes they are just good research, sometimes they are destiny waiting for connection.
Good Counsel can help us see what we might be missing. Trusted leaders, honest peers and experts in their field can help us count the cost and open our eyes as we move forward.
In the end each of us is responsible for our own choices and has to live with whatever we choose for ourselves.
As I walk through the choices I am making I am looking to list #2. When I find myself motivated by anything from list one I take some time and slow myself down and refocus. Remember~
Success equals an Active relationship with God!
Start with a right motivation and then whether your next step works out exactly as you hoped or shows you that it wasn’t right for you or right for now, as long as you are processing it all in an active relationship with God – it’s all good!
- What are you in the process of deciding right now?
- What list are you looking at to help with your decision?