I was utterly intrigued when I realized that coaching is not a new trend but that
Coaching was God’s plan for leadership development from the very beginning!
In His book “Leadership Coaching” Tony Stolzfus gives these seven practical examples of how Coaching is imitating how God works at change with us. Here is his list:
- A Coach Listens
- A Coach Asks
- A Coach See More than He/She Says
- A Coach Gives Responsibility
- A Coach Works through Internal Motivation
- A Coach Respects Free Will
- A Coach Honors Human Uniqueness
Let’s talk a closer look.
1. A Coach Listens
God always encourages us to share our hearts with Him. Even though He already knows our thoughts, He also knows we need to verbalize in order to process.
We honor others by encouraging them to share.
2. A Coach Asks
Jesus asked the disciples who they thought He was and then specifically He asked Peter to verbalize his conviction. I don’t think Jesus needed affirmation, He wasn’t having doubts or an identity crisis, He was creating a moment of truth for Peter.
When we ask for clarity we create an opportunity for a new awareness.
3. A Coach See More than He/She Says
Some of the first words recorded of God speaking to man is when Adam is asked the question, “Where are you?”
Just because you already know something doesn’t mean saying it first is a gift.
4. A Coach Gives Responsibility
Jesus sent several groups out to do miracles and take care of people with fairly minimal instructions by our standards, and yet the whole church was built by these leaders.
When we give responsibility we grow leaders. If they are handled well it can be a win-win. If they do well they can build on their experience, if they have difficulty we can debrief it together.
5. A Coach Works through Internal Motivation
“Christ gave you a special gift that is still in you, so you do not need any other teacher. His gift teaches you about everything, and it is true, not false. So continue to live in Christ, as his gift taught you.” 1 John 2:27
When you truly believe God’s Spirit is already at work in someone you can trust in a deeper way and simply ask curious questions about where He is already leading the person.
6. A Coach Respects Free Will
“Choose you this day who you will serve…” Joshua 24:15
Looking at options and their possible outcomes assists another person by allowing them to compare pathways and choose what one to try next.
7. A Coach Honors Human Uniqueness
We were all created with different gifts, skills, strengths and even motivations.
When we come alongside someone to help them see their unique design we can help them move toward their intended destiny.
Coaching is not a passing fad but rather God’s idea from the beginning!
Hebrews 8:6-13 “But the priestly work that has been given to Jesus is much greater than the work that was given to the other priests. In the same way, the new agreement that Jesus brought from God to his people is much greater than the old one. And the new agreement is based on promises of better things.
7 If there had been nothing wrong with the first agreement, there would have been no need for a second agreement. 8 But God found something wrong with his people. He says:
“Look, the time is coming, says the Lord,
when I will make a new agreement
with the people of Israel
and the people of Judah.
9 It will not be like the agreement
I made with their ancestors
when I took them by the hand
to bring them out of Egypt.
But they broke that agreement,
and I turned away from them, says the Lord.
10 This is the agreement I will make
with the people of Israel at that time, says the Lord.
I will put my teachings in their minds
and write them on their hearts.
I will be their God,
and they will be my people.
11 People will no longer have to teach their neighbors and relatives
to know the Lord,
because all people will know me,
from the least to the most important.
12 I will forgive them for the wicked things they did,
and I will not remember their sins anymore.” Jeremiah 31:31–34
13 God called this a new agreement, so he has made the first agreement old. And anything that is old and worn out is ready to disappear.
How are you living out the new agreement?
- Which of the seven principles above comes easily to you?
- Which of the seven principles above do you need to lean into more?