This week one of my trainees called me a Ninja! What a high compliment. To me Ninja means “highly skilled and stealthy”. I’m not sure if that is accurate, but I’m pretty sure that’s what the trainee meant.
A trained coach is like that – highly skilled and stealthy – and it comes two ways. Many leaders have a lot of natural coaching skills, they may not know the coaching terms for them, but they work and they have been doing them for years. So, one way coaching skills come is naturally. (They are Biblical so that makes sense.) The other way skill happens is through training, a trained coach can ask questions that move the conversation, and therefore the individual, forward in powerful ways.
So, here’s Seven Things Coaching Does!
1) Coaching Empowers People – Coaching releases people to choose for themselves. Choose what they want to focus on, choose their next steps, choose their pace, but most importantly choose to hear God’s voice for themselves. (You can give a man a fish or help him learn how to fish…)
2) Coaching Draws Out – Mentoring gives and pours from the heart of the mentor to the mentee. Coaching pulls what God has seeded in the heart of the coachee out and onto the front burner.
3) Coaching Offers – Telling gives ideas and solutions. Coaching waits as the coachee discerns the nexts God has for them.
4) Coaching Believes in the Holy Spirit in the Coachee – Coaching leans into the believe that in the New Covenant the Holy Spirit wants to live in each believer. So, rather than have to wait in line to talk to an anointed priest, we are all able to hear what God is saying. Coaching develops ears to hear for the coachee.
5) Coaching Releases Destinies – In the Coaching paradigm destinies are discovered as the coachee leans into an understanding of their unique spiritual DNA. God has seeded unique dreams and desires, skills and abilities in each of us and a good coach draws them out.
6) Coaching Sets Up Success – In Bridges Coaching we forward the idea that “Success equals an active relationship with God.” Therefore Coaching sets a person up with the next steps they believe God has for them by looking at obstacles and options and then owning their future by exploring action steps.
7) Coaching Is Collaborative – Coaches work with coachees together rather than bearing the weight of providing solutions.
And a bonus one – just like in Proverbs.
Coaching Is Tricky – It can be hard to know when or how to ask powerful questions that help a person get unstuck. A trained coach learns when it is appropriate for direct questions or when it is good to leave things seep for a bit.
The bottom line is that leaders have these options: they can push people, carry people OR they can work with people helping them to discern God’s plan and move toward it!
Coaching has changed my life and it is changing the life of those around me.
In closing I just got an email from a trainee (the one who called me a Ninja) and I’d like to share a quote.
Just wanted to thank you and let you know that I’ve already made great progress on my action steps. I had a really intense day at work but all I wanted to do when I got home was start diving into what I really want in this new season and what areas I see myself growing in.
I know that the session today was meant to just give us a taste of what coaching should be but wow, I’m hooked! This course is such a timely answer to prayer in my life in SO many ways! I am feeling inspired to apply these principles in my life so that I can someday help others as well!