It’s easy not to be coachy – here’s how! (Okay – it’s a little tongue in cheek, but a good check up as well.)
- Just tell people what to do! Cut to the chase and be that guy who has a quick and easy why-didn’t-you-think-of-this-already plan.
- Interrupt people while they are talking. You are an important and busy person, clearly they are using too many words and you already “get it”.
- Ask closed questions, particularly ones that are answered with a yes or no – deep ones like, “Did that make you angry?”
- Shoot for behavior modification. Make hoops they can jump through to achieve the standards you set.
- Just let them ramble. Don’t have a focus, just be there for them and let them talk away.
- Steer the conversation to whatever you think is most important. You’re the leader so you should lead.
- Diagnose and prescribe. Decide what is wrong with people, and then enlighten them with the right way to get where you want them to go.
- Don’t have clear action steps. Just let them talk about what they could do but don’t really nail anything down.
- Help them make vague goals. That way they can feel good about whatever they do or do not accomplish.
- Don’t hold them accountable or talk about obstacles. That kind of talk could get down to core issues and that might be uncomfortable.