If you’ve been following Bridges Coaching or our lives you probably know my husband Eric and I just moved to Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Talk about transition!
We both have new jobs. We moved into a new home. We have a new church and we are in a new community. We moved away from friends and family. That’s a LOT of new. We are living in transition right now.
This is not a new concept for us. It’s just been awhile this time. We have lived in 5 different states and most of the dozen or so times we moved it was across state lines.
Many familiar thoughts have crossed my mind in this season. I remember them from before so I started making a list.
Here’s my Top Ten Distractions while in Transition
#1 Double Mindedness: It can be so easy to rethink your decision to move. Yet, once the decision is made it’s important to just focus on connecting where you are.
James 1:8 says, “Such doubters are thinking two different things at the same time, and they cannot decide about anything they do. They should not think they will receive anything from the Lord.”
#2 Egypt Syndrome: Remember when the Israelites ran into a little difficulty in the wilderness and they wanted to go back to Egypt where there were leeks and onions? In all the unfamiliar newness it can be easy to long for the familiar from the last place.
#3 Villainization: (I think Eric made this word up) This is basically the opposite of Egypt Syndrome. Villainization is where you feel the need to classify some thing from the old place as “bad” in order to feel like you have permission to enjoy the new place. It’s OK to love things from where you were as well as things that are new.
#4 Rose Colored Glasses: There’s a certain honeymoon season in every new move where it feels like everything is going to be better because you are in a new place. There is some truth to the opportunity to remake yourself (more about that in the next blog) but the reality is everywhere you go there you are. Different circumstances don’t change your character, they just reveal it.
#5 Disorientation: The simple fact that everything is new can keep you from thinking clearly. My first visit to the grocery store here was kind of eerie for me. And I wasn’t even in a foreign country or anything, I just didn’t know where things were, etc.
#6 Rush to Impact: There is a strong desire to make a difference as quickly as possible as if that would legitimize the cost of the move.
#7 Self Soothing: If you have any unhealthy “go-to’s” they will come to the surface in a transition. Be cautious to guard yourself not to fall back into any addictions or even unhealthy habits.
#8 Self Depreciation: This one is kind of like #1- being double minded, but it is more personal. The human questions that plague us all sound louder in transition.
“Do you have what it takes?”
“Can you really come through?”
#9 Freeze Framing: Characterizing new people to be like people you knew before can be dangerous. While they may have some similar qualities, they may or may not be alike in other ways. It’s important to take the time needed to really get to know people.
#10 Feeling Overwhelmed: Along with having to use an app to find everything, there’s the new culture, odd ways to pronounce things and new quirks like things not being open on Sunday to learn.
All in all – transition is a great opportunity for your roots in the Lord to go deeper than ever before!
Having an acute self awareness while in transition is paramount to a successful transplant! If God led you then He is with you! Lean into Him ~ He IS there for you!
Josh 1:9 Remember that I commanded you to be strong and brave. Don’t be afraid, because the Lord your God will be WITH you everywhere you go.”
Where are you in transition?
Could God be asking you for a new next?