As our kids were growing up we lived in 4 different states and moved across multiple state lines 5 times, so I should not be surprised that now that they are adults they live in 4 different states. They may have gotten that from us. While I am happy they are each pursuing their dreams it can be hard sometimes to be so far away from them, especially as the grandkids come along…
I found myself in the mullygrubs about it and felt pretty stuck. I couldn’t really ask them to move back and even if we move closer to one of them, we would then be moving farther away from the others. God has been teaching me about taking my desires to Him. I didn’t have much hope, but thought it was worth a shot. As I brought my pain and hopes to Him He simply shared this thought with me, “You are as close to your kids as you choose to be.” These simple quiet words have soothed my soul.
My kids could live next door and we could be close in location but not get along with each other. My kids could live far away and I could make them feel guilty and push them even farther. Or, I could be intentional about being involved in their lives and we can be close no matter where they live. My own parents live in Wisconsin and I have been so grateful for their blessing and constant support. I want to follow their example and stay close with my kids even if they are all four in separate time zones.
Modern technology is great! My son-in-law, Skyler, is really faithful about sending us texts with pics of our grandsons. Zach regularly calls on his way home from work and Courtney on her way to work. While Meredith was in Austria studying abroad for a semester we had regular Skype dates or chatted online. Natalie comes home every now and then for a weekend and we usually get a weekend or evening good long catch up call with her. They are each different but they are each close.
Where are you feeling stuck? What unmet desires or hopes are you dealing with? What belongs in your blank “You are only as _____ as you choose to be!”
Here’s some ideas:
- You are only as peaceful as you choose to be!
- You are only as attractive as you choose to be!
- You are only as successful as you choose to be!
You get the picture – hopeful, happy, connected, optimistic… and the list goes on. I think it could also work in the negative. You are only as depressed as you choose to be, or you are only as lonely as you choose to be. God chose to give us free will and He wants us to make good choices.
No matter how hopeless it seems God always offers a plan! Talk to Him about it. See what He has to say. Maybe you, too, are only as _____ as you choose to be!
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